This is the video in which a 14-year-old rapper tells would-be oglers to lay of his mother.
The poster at LIE found the video to be a refreshing glimpse into the potential of today's youths to right some of the injustices in our society. To wit:
This is a young man that gets what so many grown men seem to continually fail to grasp. Women have the right to walk down the street without constant harassment. It is not a compliment to be treated like a sexual object, as though you have no value. Perhaps if these oglers would take the time to realize that all women have value and people that love them, they would learn that overt sexualization is truly harmful. Watching this video gave me hope that the next generation will truly confront many of the isms that we have internalized.So I read that, started watching the video, and thought about it. Though the lyrics weren't particularly wowing me, the kid is only 14, and it's not bad. I hadn't gotten through the whole thing, but I was generally agreeing with the poster's take on it. Then my husband sat next to me on the couch.
Him: (incredulously) "What are you watching?"
Me: "A music video."
He watches a bit of it, then shakes his head: "This is a damn shame."
Me, pausing the video: "Why?"
Him: "First off, it appears the mother and the father aren't together--he's being raised in a single parent home. What you see that give rise to is a condition where young male development is really stunted. They view their most meaningful relationship with a woman as one with their mother." Then he brought up the movie Baby Boy. "In that movie, there's a scene where the son (Tyrese) is in a fight with his mother's boyfriend (Ving Rhames), and in that scene Ving Rhames says something like 'You think she's your woman. She's not; she's my woman.' Basically, Tyrese is stuck in a child-like mind state; he couldn't get past his mother being the only real woman in his life So in the video he's doting on his mother and casting out a warning to all potential suitors, isolating his mother to himself. He is protecting his mother, but that has a consequence of isolating her. And it gives him a skewed view of relationships. As he gets older, that relationship can tarnish a little bit. Potential inadequacies of a single-parent home, when he's old enough to realize them, may cause him to blame his mother for not giving him what he needed."
When I told him about what the LIE poster said, he says that the first thing he thought of was all of the problematic societal issues it brought to the forefront.
Wow, quite a different perspective. I want to think like the LIE poster and see this as a positive sign for our future, but now I'm re-watching it and feeling a little less hopeful.