So far we've heard from the following identities in balance:
Danielle wrote about being a feminist who submits to her husband.
Scott shared the challenges to balancing his identity as a stay-at-home dad.
Jennifer wrote about being a feminist mother who wears lipstick.
Shannon wrote about being Catholic and feminist.
Mitch wrote about being a hunter and a conservationist.
Emma wrote about being upper-middle class and not having a car.
Want to join these fine folks with a reflection of your own? Of course you do! So send your submissions to balancingjane [at] gmail [dot] com. Here's the prompt:
We all wear many labels. Some we wear our whole lives, and some shift as our relationships to those around us change. We are mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, teachers, students, friends, feminists, Democrats, Republicans, daughters, sons, employees, bosses, and a host of other identities that weave together to make us who we are in any particular time and space. Sometimes those identities easily merge together, but often there are excesses in the overlap, spaces that might confuse us, spaces that make it challenging to figure out who we are. Balancing Jane maintains that it is in those spaces that we find out the most about ourselves, that when we are forced to simultaneously own two labels that we might not have placed together we figure out what we stand for. It is also by inhabiting those spaces that we learn to appreciate other people, for if we can be more than one thing, then so can they, and that means that our preconceived notions of them are always--at best--an oversimplification.
Pick any two labels that you wear (by choice or necessity) and reflect on how they intersect. Start with I am _________ and _______. Of course, these are not your only two labels, but these should be two that have, when combined, given you some insight into yourself or the world around you. In approximately 250-500 words, share what wearing those two labels has meant to you.
It can be an essay, story, poem, photograph (I think there's some great photography potential here), etc. Send me your submissions at balancingjane [at] gmail [dot] com or post it on your own blog and send me the link so I can share it here. Be sure to include a short byline about yourself (and linking to your own blog, if you have one) if you want. I look forward to reading your reflections!