Friday, July 12, 2013

Some Thoughts on Marriage: Five Years In

Today is our five-year wedding anniversary.

I've already written about the way our wedding day was intertwined with tragedy and loss, how we started dating so young that our growth together into compatible philosophies is pretty amazing, how he will be my partner through everything (including zombie runs and non-medicated birth) but not monster attacks, what being in an interracial marriage means to me, and how my feminism is dependent upon my marriage.

What I would most like to say I have learned in five years of marriage is that a strong partner, a strong support system, a great friend and lover makes the hard times easier and the good times better. After a decade with this man, my heart still flutters when I hear his keys in the door and watching him play with and nurture our daughter makes me fall in love with him over and over again. 

My only hope for our relationship is that it continues to flourish right along with us until five years in sounds like only a drop in a very big bucket. 


  1. I can only hope my marriage is like this too in five years. im so lucky to have my husband. I agree that the hard times are easier and the good times are better. I have found someone that is my best friend too. I would say they are lucky to have us too. :) happy anniversary!!!

  2. Happy anniversary! We just celebrated our sixth, and I am thankful every day that I get to spend the rest of my life with my husband.

  3. Thank you, and happy anniversary to you, too!