The deluded camp, conversely, takes Twilight far too seriously, faulting it for leading young girls to mistake fantasy for reality in dangerous, disempowering ways.Though I can't really call myself a Twilight "hater," as I certainly don't have enough at stake to invest hate into the franchise, I am certainly not a fan. I started to read one of the books when the English teacher part of me began to weep at the heavy-handed writing and cliches. A friend of mine who is a big fan had me watch the first movie, which I politely sat through, confused by its popularity. I found the plot not only implausible, but also contrived and a little insulting. And I wasn't even considering it a counterpart for pop culture's male blank check, which is how Christakis seems to view it:
It makes you wonder if some people missed the memo that hundreds of millions of females, like their male counterparts, enjoy their fantasy life straight-up weird, sexy, and implausible.
Why is it that female fantasies are such a source of derision and fear? The male species is allowed all manner of violent, creepy, ludicrous and degrading movie tropes, and while we may not embrace them as high art, no one questions them seriously as entertainment, even when sometimes we probably should.I take issue with the idea that we're supposed to read Bella as some sort of answer to female fantasy. To look at some of the reasons I take issue with this, you can see an analysis of the anti-feminist messages in the films from nuxi at FanPop, an article about a gender studies professor's views, or this Guardian article.
All that aside, though, the thing I really take issue with is calling people who disagree with your own opinion on a film "bigots," especially if you don't answer any of their claims about the film except for dismissing them as "too serious." She then goes on to talk about the importance of themes like wedding jitters, pregnancy, and menstrual cycles. While it may be true that these are themes that resonate most strongly with a female audience, it does nothing to address the concerns about the messages the films send about relationships and women's places in them.
Look, you can like something you "shouldn't" for the sake of entertainment. It happens. I, for instance, own and occasionally, far from the ears of my daughter, enjoy listening to a Dr. Dre album. There are decidedly anti-feminist lyrics in many of the songs, and I know that's wrong. From an entertainment standpoint, though, I still find myself drawn to it. I just have to come to terms with that. I can't accuse other people of misunderstanding or of promoting bigoted viewpoints.
If you like Twilight, defend it in its own right or tackle the criticism that it's anti-feminist directly. Don't dismiss people who point out those messages as bigots because calling people bigots for pointing out stereotypes and sexism is, well, pretty anti-feminist.